Archive for May 16th, 2012
By Jamie Rona
If you are a lot like my own grandmother who was left with three grandchildren to raise by herself, then I salute you. Grandparents raising grandchildren have become quite common these days. If you must know, there are over two million of you wonderful grandmas and grandpas out there who are doing a very good job in raising todays generation of kids which can be both trying and tiring. But, as my own grandmother pointed out, she would rather take care of her own grandchildren herself rather than leave us to the care of nannies who are technically, complete strangers.
Read below for some helpful tips for grandparents raising grandchildren these days. And remember, you are doing a great job at it:
It is important that you legally establish your status to your grandchildren. Most seek the advice of lawyers to find out if establishing yourself as your grandchilds legal guardian would be best.
Since you would be raising your grandchild, make sure that you have your financial status evaluated. The Internal Revenue Service can even make arrangements so that you and your grandchild can be qualified for Federal grants or tax deduction programs to give you financial support.
Is your home grandchild friendly? Make it a point to have a room or place in the house especially reserved for your grandchild.
Make an appointment with the schools in your area where you would enroll your grandchild. Be sure to explain to the teachers and officers the familys situation so they would be prepared to adjust according to what your grandchild would need.
Make sure that you are aware of your grandchilds medical history.
Take care of yourself. This new generation of children can a exhausting. And you can see the difference on the physical demands of children today compared to your own kids needs thirty years earlier. If you plan to keep up, make sure you are healthy and you have a lot of energy.
Stay strong. Not only in the physical sense but also emotionally and mentally. Always keep in mind that your grandchildren rely on you and need you. Take care of them, be involved in their activities in school, know who their friends are, and take active part in their lives.
Grandparents raising grandchildren have become all too common these days. It is important that both grandparents and grandchildren maintain a friendly and loving relationship between each other. Make memories with your grandkids and let them know they are a blessing, not a burden.
Jamie is a mother of three who enjoys fitness and the great outdoors. She is a self-employed journalist who spends her time learning about parenting and family relationships for her reports. As an authority in parenting, Jamie teaches classes in her community. In addition to writing, Jamie loves spending time with her family and their two dogs.
Jamie is a busy mother and teacher who likes exercise and the outdoors. She loves to make healthy smoothies and other treats for her family. She enjoys the convenience of her cordless blender. In addition to writing, Jamie loves spending time with her family and their two dogs.
By Steven Griggs
What To Do First When Changing Teenager’s Behavior-Part III
This is the third in a three-part series of articles. Please read
the first two and have your list of behaviors handy before reading this
To continue, these are some of the many complaints and categories I
hear about from parents. There are a lot more categories and infinitely
more negative behaviors to be put in the right column. All have a
positive opposite variant that goes in the left column.
Now, what do you do with “the list?” First, we’re mostly going to
work with the list on the left side. Rank order the list; that is, think
about which of these positive behaviors you most want or is most important.
Or, you can look at the list on the right side and pick those negative
behaviors that you really want to “go away.” Either will tell you which
of the many behaviors in either column are most important. Figure out
which behavior is number one and rank it accordingly (put a “1″ next to it…).
Choose another to be number two; that is, which behavior is not quite as
important as the number one behavior, but presumably is still important
enough to be number two. Work your way down the page, creating a ranked or
prioritized list, ending with the positive behavior that is still positive,
but relatively speaking, least important.
Remember the terms first described in previous articles? Go back and
re-read the definition of “Reinforcer.” What we’re going to do is start
“reinforcing” only the positive behaviors, starting with the top three that
you prioritized in the left column. When I say reinforce, I mean to provide
a positive experience or reward after you see the positive behavior. Right
about here some parents say, “I don’t see any positive behavior–that’s
the problem!” I know, I know. But in actuality, there are always some
positive behaviors to work with. Parents are usually so frustrated they
don’t admit it. If you don’t see the full-blown behavior, don’t worry.
Go back and review the meaning of the term “Shaping,” also described in a
previous article. What you want to do is positively reinforce only the
positive behavior, or its’ precursor; that is, the very beginnings of the
behaviors, to start training your teenager to eventually produce the full-blown
behavior. Here’s an example. Let’s use yelling again. When you see your
teen talking quietly, you’re going to provide some positive reward. S/he
never stops yelling? Not likely, even though it sometimes seems like this
is the case. Sooner or later every person, no matter how young or old will
wind down and actually speak in civil tones at a respectable volume. It might
take a week, but watch and be patient. When s/he does, you got ‘em! (Chance
favors the prepared mind…) Your job is to be ready and reinforce the behavior
with something positive. From another previous article, re-read the description
of “Contingencies.” We want to be very aware of your teen’s first attempts at
good behaviors, then present some kind of reward–right away (immediacy), to do
it every time (consistency) and with the same kind of reinforcer each time
(constancy). Start with small examples of the positive behavior and keep at it.
Now, what will work as a positive reinforcer? Usually this should be a
compliment, or hug, or touch. For very immature twelve year olds, you can also
use a sticker or star and place it on a chart. This ebook is not about younger
kids; so, if this is your situation, refer to my other ebook, How To Change
Children’s Behavior (Quickly). For most teenagers, the rewards will have to be
different, because they are no longer younger children. The idea is to figure
out what is positive for your teenager and deliver that after you see a good
behavior. You can do this in a classical conditioning sense; that is, by telling
your teen, “If you do this, you will get this,” then delivering the reward as
promised, right away (immediacy), every time (consistency) and with the same kind
of reward (constancy). Your teenager knows what’s coming because you set up a
positive expectation and then you deliver. Classical conditioning! Pretty soon
you promise and your teen changes the behavior without yet getting the reward
(in anticipation), just like Pavlov’s dog began to salivate in anticipation of
the meat powder when Pavlov rang the bell beforehand. I know we’re not animals,
but the principles work with everyone–you promise, they change behavior, you
provide the reward.
Or, you can apply the same principles without forewarning, just after the
behaviors have occurred. This is when you look for one or more little behaviors
that are in the right direction and then apply the reinforcers as described above
under “contingencies” (immediately, consistently and constantly). Again, because
it’s not foreshadowed and occurs in real life (outside of the Pavlov’s laboratory),
it’s called operant conditioning–same reinforcement principles, different venue,
no experimenter in a white coat.
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By Jonatha Clayne
WHICH Road DO I have TO Take TO REAR An excellent Kid?
With postnatal preparations, you also must put together for your arrival of your little one. The arrival of the child is simply the starting up preparations involved in raising a boy or girl, as we all know that parenting is in fact an everyday living extended commitment.
The process OF Being A brand new Mother or father.
You can not go into any shop to accumulate your parenting knowledge nor could you download parenting techniques on the internet. Parenting abilities are something which you will need to come to be skilled at and it is generally earned.
The following Are the PROCESSES That you just Will need to KNOW To be Competent IN PARENTING.
Know all there’s to understand about you very own youngster – we’re all various by nature, and we all have an one of a kind character aspect that identifies us to be ourselves. It’s a verified truth that most little ones copy their parents’ actions, their mannerisms and their wishes to stick to their mother and father footsteps, but there are also people kids who usually do not need to come to be like their mother and father and more often than not defies them. The children that rebels against that which you (as being the father or mother) happen to be used to would be the ones you will need to implement superior parenting abilities with simply because they will definitely upset you and in addition depart you feeling discouraged at times.
PARENTING Is actually a NEVER-ENDING Occupation.
Parenting a baby normally requires a lifetime. Staying a parent is nothing at all but a priceless job. Parenting would be the toughest career and that applies to whether or not you’re a to begin with time mother or father or irrespective of whether you already have a number of young children. No one can say that parenting is these kinds of a straightforward undertaking. A more youthful kid wants tons of attention along with appropriate advice because they are rising up.
Train YOUR Kids SELF-RELIANCE
To teach your child the appeal of self-sufficiency and also to respect the real value of challenging earned dollars, they may undoubtedly expand accurately, this may be tough but that is a rewarding procedure and irreplaceable. By offering acceptance, abundant adore and affection in your kid, they are usually kinder, charitable and best of all accountable instead of people whose parents acceded to their just about every whims and materialistic demands. Always recall to allow your child to earn issues they want instead of for you not to give in to effortlessly to their needs.
GET Far more COMPLIANCE From your Kid.
Start out to ascertain home principles – For example, in case your household rule is the fact bedtime really should be at 8 pm, simply just state the rule. An instance of beneficial communication is, when your son or daughter asks “Can I view Television now?” In case your initial response to letting your son or daughter to look at Tv is “No, you cannot observe Tv right away, consider saying, “You can enjoy ideal after dinner”. Rather you could potentially set it by doing this, “Would you do your chore/s ahead of or following school right now?”, in order to achieve cooperation from your little one.